Making the decision to end a marriage is not easy. It is a deeply personal choice, fraught with emotion and difficult considerations, and it is not a decision to make lightly. It involves an understanding of the legal requirements, coupled with an honest assessment of your situation and feelings.
Knowing when it is the right time to file for divorce is subjective and depends on the unique circumstances of your marriage. However, there are some common indicators that might help guide you toward making this significant decision.
Irretrievable breakdown of the marriage
In Wisconsin, the law requires that there must be an “irretrievable breakdown” of the marriage to grant a divorce. This means that there is no hope of reconciliation. If you feel that your marriage has reached a point where reconciliation is not possible, it might be time to consider filing for divorce.
Unmet needs and dissatisfaction
The Wisconsin Department of Health reported that in 2020, there were 2.1 divorces in the state for every 1,000 inhabitants, and most of the people divorcing felt unhappy living with their spouse. Marriage involves a partnership where both partners should work together to meet each other’s needs. If you find that your needs are persistently neglected or you are consistently dissatisfied, despite your best efforts to communicate and resolve issues, it might be an indicator that it is time to move on.
Lack of respect and trust
Respect and trust form the foundation of a healthy marriage. If these elements are lacking or have eroded due to issues such as infidelity, dishonesty or continual disrespect, divorce could be the next step.
Living separate lives
If you and your spouse have begun living separate lives and have become more like roommates than partners, this could be a sign that divorce is on the horizon. Emotional distance can be as harmful to a marriage as physical distance.
Feeling better about the idea of being apart
One significant indicator that it might be time to file for divorce is if you find yourself feeling relieved or happier at the thought of being apart from your spouse. This could be a clear sign that the marriage is not providing the support, happiness and fulfillment you need.
Deciding to file for divorce is a personal decision that only you can make. It is essential to consider the realities of your marriage honestly and assess whether there is a possibility of improvement or change. Divorce is a significant step, but sometimes it can be the best path forward toward a happier, healthier future.